Strategy 7
Enthusiastic Optimist
- Desire
- Contentment and freedom of choice
- Fear
- Deprivation and pain there's no escaping
How they're connected
They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.
What draws them together
The Three and the Seven are a great energetic match. The Three's drive complements the Seven, who thinks in terms of many possibilities. As long as the projects keep coming, there's no risk of boredom or sadness. They just may not spend much time together, so they can end up simply swapping updates once a week.
Both feel good about themselves. The upside is a positive attitude; the downside is a certain superficiality. They find it hard to look long enough at what went wrong.
Where they click
- Lots of energy, fun, and shared plans.
- Both are optimistic and positive.
- Together they can build a lot.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
Where the friction is
- Both avoid pain and difficult conversations.
- Both overvalue fun and overlook problems, such as money or parenting.
- When limits loom, both speed up instead of stopping.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
Working together
This partnership often blooms at the start of a project and runs aground before the end. Both get going fast and keep their interest alive by expanding the project further. The Three will put up with tedious work for the sake of the result. The Seven looks for work they enjoy and happily avoids management that limits their freedom.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
The two of you, specifically
This is only a general description of the Three and Seven pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.
- The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
- Advice for each of you separately
- The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
- How to understand your partner
- Tips for growing together








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