Relationships between strategies

37 in a relationship

An energetic, optimistic couple who know how to live a successful adventure. They never get bored; they just need to make sure their projects don't make them overlook problems, and each other.

Strategy 3

Winning Strategist

Desire
Worth and recognition
Fear
Being worthless without achievement

Strategy 7

Enthusiastic Optimist

Desire
Contentment and freedom of choice
Fear
Deprivation and pain there's no escaping

How they're connected

They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.

What draws them together

The Three and the Seven are a great energetic match. The Three's drive complements the Seven, who thinks in terms of many possibilities. As long as the projects keep coming, there's no risk of boredom or sadness. They just may not spend much time together, so they can end up simply swapping updates once a week.

Both feel good about themselves. The upside is a positive attitude; the downside is a certain superficiality. They find it hard to look long enough at what went wrong.

Where they click

  • Lots of energy, fun, and shared plans.
  • Both are optimistic and positive.
  • Together they can build a lot.

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Where the friction is

  • Both avoid pain and difficult conversations.
  • Both overvalue fun and overlook problems, such as money or parenting.
  • When limits loom, both speed up instead of stopping.

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Working together

This partnership often blooms at the start of a project and runs aground before the end. Both get going fast and keep their interest alive by expanding the project further. The Three will put up with tedious work for the sake of the result. The Seven looks for work they enjoy and happily avoids management that limits their freedom.

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The two of you, specifically

This is only a general description of the Three and Seven pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.

  • The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
  • Advice for each of you separately
  • The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
  • How to understand your partner
  • Tips for growing together

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