39 in a relationship

They're connected by an arrow: strategy 3 moves towards strategy 9 under stress. That's why someone with strategy 3 easily recognises their own worse days in strategy 9.

They're connected by an arrow: strategy 9 moves towards strategy 3 in growth. Strategy 3 therefore often embodies what someone with strategy 9 needs to develop.

The Three wants to impress those close to them, and the Nine tends to merge with other people's plans. So the Three offers an image that charms the Nine, and the Nine backs the Three's direction. The couple easily agrees that performance and goals will be the centre of their life.

A Nine looking for a purpose in life often gets excited about their partner's plan. They try on the Three's style and think: "Finally, I know what to do." If the Three's goals genuinely match the Nine's hidden wishes, the result is a contented, productive life.

• The Three brings energy and direction, the Nine calm and acceptance.
• The Nine accepts the Three regardless of performance.
• The Three helps the Nine take action and find their own drive.

• The Nine gets swept up in someone else's agenda and loses their own.
• A dissatisfied Nine quietly loses energy and runs on autopilot.
• The Three is out, the Nine is "asleep," and neither sees the problem.

At work, the Three's pace sets the bar. Nines admire people who have "found themselves" in their careers, and they can pick up good habits from the Three, especially when it comes to deadlines. But the Nine still sees every side of an issue and avoids conflict. The Three sees that as stalling; the Nine sees it as "business with a heart."