Strategy 7
Enthusiastic Optimist
- Desire
- Contentment and freedom of choice
- Fear
- Deprivation and pain there's no escaping
How they're connected
Same strategy: you understand each other deeply, but you also share the same blind spots.
What draws them together
When a Seven writes down the qualities of an ideal partner, they're really describing themselves: energetic, independent, optimistic, successful, adventurous. They're looking for a mirror. Someone who'll hike where the Seven wants to hike, see the film the Seven wants to see, and get involved in the Seven's projects.
That's why two Sevens often come together as friends and confidants, but less often as a lasting couple. The highs are breathtaking: "We can have it all. It's like we own a private jet."
Where they click
- Loads of fun, experiences, and energy.
- Shared optimism and lightness.
- Both are creative and spontaneous.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
Where the friction is
- Nobody follows through, plans, or deals with responsibilities.
- Both run from hard conversations.
- They hear "predictable" and "lasting" as "boring" and "stuck."
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
Working together
Success depends on being in the right roles. Short, fast projects are safer than long-term plans. Starting is easy; finishing is hard. Every good idea branches into more. Two Sevens then either join forces in inventive collaboration or go their separate ways.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
The two of you, specifically
This is only a general description of the Seven and Seven pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.
- The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
- Advice for each of you separately
- The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
- How to understand your partner
- Tips for growing together




