Relationships between strategies

77 in a relationship

Two enthusiasts who have more fun together than anyone else. They make great friends and travel companions. As a couple, they need to learn to stay together even when it stops being fun.

Strategy 7

Enthusiastic Optimist

Desire
Contentment and freedom of choice
Fear
Deprivation and pain there's no escaping

How they're connected

Same strategy: you understand each other deeply, but you also share the same blind spots.

What draws them together

When a Seven writes down the qualities of an ideal partner, they're really describing themselves: energetic, independent, optimistic, successful, adventurous. They're looking for a mirror. Someone who'll hike where the Seven wants to hike, see the movie the Seven wants to see, and get involved in the Seven's projects.

That's why two Sevens often come together as friends and confidants, but less often as a lasting couple. The highs are breathtaking: "We can have it all. It's like we own a private jet."

Where they click

  • Loads of fun, experiences, and energy.
  • Shared optimism and lightness.
  • Both are creative and spontaneous.

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Where the friction is

  • Nobody follows through, plans, or deals with responsibilities.
  • Both run from hard conversations.
  • They hear "predictable" and "lasting" as "boring" and "stuck."

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Working together

Success depends on being in the right roles. Short, fast projects are safer than long-term plans. Starting is easy; finishing is hard. Every good idea branches into more. Two Sevens then either join forces in inventive collaboration or go their separate ways.

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The two of you, specifically

This is only a general description of the Seven and Seven pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.

  • The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
  • Advice for each of you separately
  • The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
  • How to understand your partner
  • Tips for growing together

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What are the two of you really like?

Here you're reading how two people with the Optimist strategy generally work together. The Couples Guide shows your relationship: what draws you to each other, where you get stuck, and what to do about it.

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