48 in a relationship

They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.

This relationship runs on intensity: fight, flight, fascination, and style. Each is a little awestruck by the other. Next to the Four's elegance and social grace, the Eight feels rough around the edges. The Four is magnetically drawn to an Eight who is ashamed of nothing. One couple described their twenty years as "an endless storm: moving house, five kids, loads of work, and thousands of great arguments."

The Four wants the full range of feelings from a partner, and the Eight is happy to answer with the same energy. Both like pushing boundaries and ignoring social conventions. The Four sees in the Eight authentic feelings with no pretence. The Eight won't be dragged down into the Four's depressions and holds steady when the Four starts testing the relationship.

• A passionate, intense relationship that never gets boring.
• Honesty and directness on both sides.
• The Eight gives the Four stability and protection.

• Conflicts can be explosive.
• The Eight can't stand self-absorbed emotional drama and goes off to have fun elsewhere.
• The Four is furious at being ignored.

Both tend to feel they're above the rules: the Four because they're special, the Eight because they're stronger. When they focus on the task, they're unbeatable. Their collaboration rests on absolute honesty. Neither will submit, but trust grows when they know each other's intentions.