Relationships between strategies

33 in a relationship

Two ambitious, high-performing people who can build a lot together. From the outside, they're the perfect couple. The challenge is making sure feelings don't disappear beneath the successful surface.

Strategy 3

Winning Strategist

Desire
Worth and recognition
Fear
Being worthless without achievement

How they're connected

Same strategy: you understand each other deeply, but you also share the same blind spots.

What draws them together

Two Threes as a couple aren't common, but when they do meet, they appreciate each other's "anything is possible" attitude. They usually have several projects running at once and support each other's careers. Each tends to have their own professional world, because they can end up competing with each other even at home.

The couple's social life revolves around people with similar interests and around activities. These are people who do things together rather than simply being together.

Where they click

  • Shared goals and mutual career support.
  • Lots of energy, performance, and success.
  • Both understand how important work is.

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Where the friction is

  • Competing over who is more successful.
  • Little time for the relationship and for feelings.
  • Both keep up a facade and find it hard to show weakness.

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Working together

Threes are most valuable during the growth phase: they sell, promote, and act fast. Trouble starts when they have to compete with each other. Then they may hide contacts and look for a new position. It helps to give each their own area and to reward team success more than individual success.

The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it

The two of you, specifically

This is only a general description of the Three and Three pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.

  • The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
  • Advice for each of you separately
  • The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
  • How to understand your partner
  • Tips for growing together

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What are the two of you really like?

Here you're reading how two people with the Strategist strategy generally work together. The Couples Guide shows your relationship: what draws you to each other, where you get stuck, and what to do about it.

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