Why People Confuse Them
Both strategies are ambitious, competitive, and want to get ahead of others. Both can lead and like results. It's usually Threes who think they're Eights, because they're looking for a more flattering image of themselves.
What the Difference Is
The Eight is about power and influence. They want the world to fit their vision and want to leave a big mark. They don't compare themselves to others much and don't care about popularity, as long as things go their way. The Three is about success and recognition, which makes them feel worthy. They need important people to see their success.
The Three fears failure because they see it as humiliation. The Eight sees it as an experience they'll come back stronger from. The Eight can withstand open confrontation and knows how to intimidate. In a conflict, the Three would rather switch to diplomacy, retaliate covertly, or back down, because they can't stand prolonged pressure.
Three Questions That Settle It
Answer honestly, based on how things usually are, not how you'd like them to be.
- What matters most to you about success?
3More likely a Three if you want others to see it and appreciate it.
8More likely an Eight if you want to have influence and have things your way.
- How do you react to open conflict?
3More likely a Three if you try to negotiate a solution and can't stand a long confrontation.
8More likely an Eight if you go for it and have no intention of backing down.
- What does failure mean to you?
3More likely a Three if it's an embarrassment you find hard to bear.
8More likely an Eight if it's a lesson and a reason to come back stronger.
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