Which of the nine strategies is yours?

I experience things intensely and deeply. I often feel that I differ from others in some essential way and that they don't fully understand me. I long for genuine connection and for meaning. Sometimes I think more about what's missing or already gone than about what I have. I have a sense for beauty and for what's real. Superficiality and pretence bother me, and my moods can last a long time.

I look at life optimistically and I'm always on the lookout for new things, ideas and experiences. My mind runs fast, and I enjoy connecting things that don't seem related at first glance. What grabs me most is the start of a project, when everything is still open. I struggle to stay with repetitive, dull work. When something's troubling me, I switch my attention to something more pleasant. As I see it, life is there to be enjoyed.

I have a clear inner sense of what's right, and I try to live by it. I easily see what's wrong and how it could be done better. When I'm responsible for something, I do it properly. I hold myself to high standards, and I tend to be more critical of others than is healthy. It annoys me when people do things carelessly or unfairly, though I often don't show it. For me, work comes before fun, and resting without guilt doesn't come easily.

I easily understand every side's point of view, so I'm good at reconciling people. Sometimes that makes me seem indecisive. I see other people's opinions and wishes more clearly than my own, and I often go along just to avoid conflict. I easily put off important things and busy myself with small stuff. I rarely show anger. I want life to be pleasant and calm, and I want people to accept me.

I need more time alone than most people. I'd rather observe things than be in the middle of the action. I sort out my feelings best on my own, and I often only enjoy experiences in hindsight. It bothers me when people want more from me than I have the desire and energy to give. I guard my time and energy; I want to live simply and not depend on others. I don't get bored alone – there's always plenty going on in my head.

I'm driven by the desire to achieve something and be among the best. I quickly figure out what's valued where, and I know how to make an impression. I have more tasks than fit into a day, and I often put off feelings and rest to get things done. Slowness and incompetence around me irritate me. Failure is hard on me, because I measure my worth mainly by what I can do. I can compete, but I can also pull together with a team.

I quickly sense what others need, often before they say it. Giving of myself comes easily – far more easily than asking for something. I'll do a lot for good relationships, and sometimes I forget about myself while caring for others. When nobody notices my effort, it can really hurt, and then I speak up more forcefully. It upsets me when people think I want to control them, when I only want to help.

I'm good at noticing what could go wrong, and I prepare for it in advance. I don't trust people or authorities right away; I check them out first. I often doubt my own decisions. But once I give my word to someone or something, I'm very loyal. I have a sense of humour and an eye for what doesn't add up in commonly accepted views. I deal with worries either by avoiding the danger or by going straight at it.

I go all in, especially when something important is at stake. I speak straight and expect the same from others. I can tell when someone is dodging or manipulating. I have little patience for weakness, and I find it hard to take orders from someone I don't respect – I'd rather take the lead myself. When I'm angry, it shows. I protect my people and stand up for them, especially when they're being wronged.