59 in a relationship

They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.

The Five and the Nine value non-verbal communication, because both want to be understood without having to ask. Asking carries the risk of rejection. So they communicate feelings through external things: planning the family, shopping, a walk. They define contentment as "how we feel when we travel."

Surprisingly, the Five, who usually observes from the sidelines, can become the centre of the Nine's attention. The Nine takes on the feelings of the people they care about and carefully picks up on the Five's subtle signals.

• A calm, harmonious relationship.
• Respect for privacy and generosity with space.
• Deep understanding without needing to talk.

• Little energy and initiative.
• The Five hates emotional dependence and can be cold.
• The Nine just wants to "be together," the Five asks "and do what?"

Neither pushes themselves forward, and both hate competing for status. Yet each needs a certain kind of attention: the Five wants their ideas appreciated, the Nine wants respect they don't have to ask for. The atmosphere isn't usually sharp; the bigger risk is that no one takes the initiative. Usually the Nine deals with people and the Five fine-tunes the content in the background.