44 in a relationship

Same strategy: you understand each other deeply, but you also share the same blind spots.

Fours enjoy spending time together and often become best friends. They go to concerts together, get involved in good causes, talk about relationships, cry, dress well, and make up after arguments. Friendship confirms that they have worth. Among friends, they allow themselves more openness, because they aren't afraid that showing a weakness will cost them love.

As a couple, they're united by an attraction to intensity: a sensitivity to beauty, tenderness, and equally powerful sorrows. For them, a good relationship contains the whole spectrum of feelings.

• Deep understanding and emotional connection.
• A shared love of beauty, art, and meaning.
• Neither is afraid to talk about emotions.

• Both may fall into a mood at the same time.
• The relationship sits on such a high pedestal that ordinary affection seems like too little.
• Something is always missing: a house, money, passion, attention.

Fours can be highly productive. Success helps them against sadness and gives them tangible proof of their worth. At work, few people would ever guess they're Fours. Most, however, swing between excitement at a challenge and losing interest once the work becomes routine. There's a risk of self-sabotage right before success.