Relationships between strategies

23 in a relationship

A charming and successful pair from the Heart Centre. The Two supports, the Three succeeds. It works beautifully, as long as the Two doesn't feel that the relationship is losing out to the Three's work.

Strategy 2

Caring Altruist

Desire
Love and close relationships
Fear
Rejection and feeling unneeded

Strategy 3

Winning Strategist

Desire
Worth and recognition
Fear
Being worthless without achievement

How they're connected

They're neighbouring strategies, so each can be the other's wing. They have a lot in common and often understand each other without explanation.

Both strategies belong to the same centre (heart centre), so they deal with a similar theme, each in its own way.

What draws them together

The Two gives attention and the Three gladly receives it. The couple often bonds around the Three's goals. Even a Two with a successful career of their own adapts to stay attractive to their partner. On the outside they may look alike, but their motives differ: the Two works to be loved, the Three loves to work.

Such a couple often builds a relationship of "successful love." They support each other's careers, and the Two becomes the emotional centre of the family. They have a lot in common: a good public image and a desire for success.

Where they click

  • An attractive, socially successful pair.
  • The Two supports the Three's goals; the Three gives the Two direction.
  • Both are energetic and love building something.

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Where the friction is

  • The Three works late into the night and falls asleep at home. The Two waits by the phone.
  • The Two feels unneeded: "Where's the attention?"
  • In an argument, the Two feels superior because they feel more, and the Three because they did more.

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Working together

They make a high-performing team: both can create and sell. The Three naturally leads and the Two is happy to support, as long as they get recognition. When the Three starts acting self-centred, the Two finds someone else to support. The Two can polish the Three's image and show them how to make an impression on people.

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The two of you, specifically

This is only a general description of the Two and Three pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.

  • The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
  • Advice for each of you separately
  • The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
  • How to understand your partner
  • Tips for growing together

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