Relationships between strategies

27 in a relationship

A cheerful, sociable, and energetic pair. The Two brings warmth; the Seven brings ideas and adventure. The challenge is moving from infatuation to depth, and from possibilities to commitment.

Strategy 2

Caring Altruist

Desire
Love and close relationships
Fear
Rejection and feeling unneeded

Strategy 7

Enthusiastic Optimist

Desire
Contentment and freedom of choice
Fear
Deprivation and pain there's no escaping

How they're connected

They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.

What draws them together

The Two and the Seven are the classic "fun couple." The Two wants to help the Seven make their plans happen and shares their enthusiasm. The Seven's vision often becomes the center of the couple's emotional life, and both hope for a bright shared future.

Both have wide-ranging interests and love seeking out the best of culture and what's happening around them. The Two is fascinated by the Seven's sunny side, yet also sees the pain hiding beneath it. The Seven is a charming companion who gives the Two adventure and attention.

Where they click

  • Lots of fun, energy, and social life.
  • Both are optimistic, generous, and attractive.
  • The Two gives the Seven warmth and a home base.

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Where the friction is

  • The Two wants more attention than the Seven can give.
  • The Seven runs from long, difficult conversations.
  • Both like to keep other options open.

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Working together

A popular work combination: the Seven has ideas, the Two makes them happen. The danger is that neither sees the project through to the end. The Seven is best at the start; the Two is best at supporting a strong leader who delivers tangible results.

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The two of you, specifically

This is only a general description of the Two and Seven pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.

  • The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
  • Advice for each of you separately
  • The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
  • How to understand your partner
  • Tips for growing together

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