Relationships between strategies

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Neighboring strategies from the Head Center that are both afraid, just in different ways. The Six sees the worst-case scenario, the Seven the best. When they meet in the middle, they see reality.

Strategy 6

Security-Minded Traditionalist

Desire
Security, support, and safety
Fear
Loss of support and guidance

Strategy 7

Enthusiastic Optimist

Desire
Contentment and freedom of choice
Fear
Deprivation and pain there's no escaping

How they're connected

They're neighboring strategies, so each can be the other's wing. They have a lot in common and often understand each other without explanation.

Both strategies belong to the same center (head center), so they deal with a similar theme, each in its own way.

What draws them together

Both the Six and the Seven are among the "fear" strategies, but they handle anxiety in completely different ways. The Six is visibly cautious, the Seven carefree. The Seven dispels fear with backup plans and may unconsciously rely on the Six to express the anxiety for them. Both fill in reality with an image of how things will turn out; they just reach opposite conclusions.

The Seven's zest for life is an antidote to the Six's doubts. A Six who stays loyal even in hard times, in turn, heals a Seven who dreads pain.

Where they click

  • The Six brings loyalty and stability, the Seven joy.
  • The Seven teaches the Six not to be afraid and to enjoy life.
  • The Six teaches the Seven responsibility and perseverance.

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Where the friction is

  • The Six wants guarantees, the Seven hates being pinned down.
  • The Six sees the Seven's detours as betrayal.
  • The Seven brushes off the Six's worries and thereby amplifies them.

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Working together

Both can change their minds quickly. The Six doubts, the Seven gets distracted by ideas. There's a risk of endless meetings and procrastination. Both also live in the future: the Six averts catastrophes, the Seven plans visions. When they listen to each other, a balance emerges.

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The two of you, specifically

This is only a general description of the Six and Seven pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.

  • The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
  • Advice for each of you separately
  • The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
  • How to understand your partner
  • Tips for growing together

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Here you're reading how Traditionalist and Optimist generally work together. The Couples Guide shows your relationship: what draws you to each other, where you get stuck, and what to do about it.

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