12 in a relationship

They're neighboring strategies, so each can be the other's wing. They have a lot in common and often understand each other without explanation.

The One is flattered by the Two's attention and warmth. The Two often makes the first move, which overcomes the One's shyness and critical streak. The Two sees what the One needs: more joy, more help, more letting go. And happily offers it.

The Two, in turn, is drawn to the One's reliability and firm values. The One shows love through responsible actions and is an anchor for the Two in emotionally stormy moments. Both want to be “good people,” just in different ways: the One by doing things right, the Two by helping.

• A shared drive to do good and look after others.
• The One gives the relationship structure; the Two brings warmth and a social life.
• The Two helps the One loosen up and enjoy the moment.

• The One works overtime; the Two goes without attention and tenderness.
• The One criticizes and the Two takes it as rejection.
• The Two helps and waits for appreciation; the One forgets to give it.

At work, they complement each other: the One looks after quality and procedures, the Two after relationships and atmosphere. Roles often sort themselves out: the One leads and the Two helps. It works well when the One is approachable: the Two can then be very thorough and productive.