49 in a relationship

They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.

The Four talks about a lifelong longing to "wake up through love"; the Nine looks to a partner for energy and direction. At their best, they can love each other without expectations or reproach. At their worst, each expects the impossible from the other: the Four lasting emotional fulfillment, the Nine to have a life served up to them.

Early on, the Four tends to be thrilled that someone accepts them, flaws and all. The Nine's patient presence shields them from the fear of abandonment and from feelings of inadequacy. The Nine doesn't need to change their partner, but in return wants unconditional acceptance.

• A gentle, loving relationship.
• The Nine accepts the Four completely.
• The Four helps the Nine wake up and find their own feelings.

• The Four wants intensity; the Nine wants calm.
• The Four puts conditions on love: "I'd love you more if…"
• Both hate criticism, and both like to shift the blame onto others.

At work, their differences complement each other well. The Four usually deals with the public; the Nine keeps things running. The Four loves creative moments; the Nine loves clear rules that spare them constant decision-making. The Four gives things a personal stamp; the Nine puts them into practice.