Strategy 1
Principled Perfectionist
- Desire
- Goodness, integrity and being at peace with yourself
- Fear
- Making a mistake, failing and being bad inside
Strategy 6
Security-Minded Traditionalist
- Desire
- Security, support, and safety
- Fear
- Loss of support and guidance
How they're connected
They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.
What draws them together
The One and the Six are often brought together by a shared vision that takes a lot of work. The Six likes to stand up for the underdog, and the One wants perfection. Both are prepared for adversity and willing to hold out through hard times.
Others may see them as pessimists: the One sees flaws, the Six sees doubts. But that's exactly why they understand the beauty of human effort, the courage to ask hard questions, and the creativity that's born out of difficulty. Each of them sees in the other both good intentions and a fear of success. From that grows an extraordinary trust.
Where they click
- Reliability and mutual loyalty.
- Shared values and the willingness to hold on through hard times.
- The Six thinks about risks, the One about quality.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
Where the friction is
- Both procrastinate: the One fears making a mistake, the Six doubts they'll succeed.
- Both fear arguments: anger scares the Six, and the One considers it wrong.
- The One may take the role of the better person, leaving the Six feeling blamed.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
Working together
The One is a dedicated hard worker who expects to earn their way up. The Six brings creativity and has an ambivalent relationship with hierarchy. Under a strict One as the boss, the Six starts bending the rules and takes others along. A One as the boss should praise and reassure even where they don't think it's necessary. The Six will read a lack of praise in the worst possible way.
The rest is in the Couples Guide. How to get it
The two of you, specifically
This is only a general description of the One and Six pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.
- The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
- Advice for each of you separately
- The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
- How to understand your partner
- Tips for growing together








Perfectionist
Traditionalist