Relationships between strategies

16 in a relationship

Two responsible, loyal people united by a shared ideal and a willingness to work hard. They understand each other deeply; they just have to learn to talk before they start reading bad intentions into each other.

Strategy 1

Principled Perfectionist

Desire
Goodness, integrity and being at peace with yourself
Fear
Making a mistake, failing and being bad inside

Strategy 6

Security-Minded Traditionalist

Desire
Security, support, and safety
Fear
Loss of support and guidance

How they're connected

They're not directly connected. Pairs like this are often drawn to each other precisely because of their differences.

What draws them together

The One and the Six are often brought together by a shared vision that takes a lot of work. The Six likes to stand up for the underdog, and the One wants perfection. Both are prepared for adversity and willing to hold out through hard times.

Others may see them as pessimists: the One sees flaws, the Six sees doubts. But that's exactly why they understand the beauty of human effort, the courage to ask hard questions, and the creativity that's born out of difficulty. Each of them sees in the other both good intentions and a fear of success. From that grows an extraordinary trust.

Where they click

  • Reliability and mutual loyalty.
  • Shared values and the willingness to hold on through hard times.
  • The Six thinks about risks, the One about quality.

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Where the friction is

  • Both procrastinate: the One fears making a mistake, the Six doubts they'll succeed.
  • Both fear arguments: anger scares the Six, and the One considers it wrong.
  • The One may take the role of the better person, leaving the Six feeling blamed.

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Working together

The One is a dedicated hard worker who expects to earn their way up. The Six brings creativity and has an ambivalent relationship with hierarchy. Under a strict One as the boss, the Six starts bending the rules and takes others along. A One as the boss should praise and reassure even where they don't think it's necessary. The Six will read a lack of praise in the worst possible way.

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The two of you, specifically

This is only a general description of the One and Six pairing. The Couples Guide goes deeper: you both take the Quick Test, and the guide works with your subtypes. The self-preservation, social, and one-to-one versions of the same strategy behave completely differently in a relationship.

  • The full text on where you get stuck and how to get out
  • Advice for each of you separately
  • The two of you, specifically: your combination of subtypes
  • How to understand your partner
  • Tips for growing together

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What are the two of you really like?

Here you're reading how Perfectionist and Traditionalist generally work together. The Couples Guide shows your relationship: what draws you to each other, where you get stuck, and what to do about it.

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